---by Paula Peters
Rachel remained close friends with Ross years after their break-up. Jim and Pam remained working in the same office after Pam said she didn't want anything with Jim. Penny still lives across the hall from Leonard. All the while they undermined each others relationships and happiness. They never moved on.
If we are going to learn how to deal with breakups we cannot resort to modern pop culture. We need to do it the old school way. And by old school I mean Audrey Hepburn.
Audrey Hepburn fans have all seen the classic Sabrina. Non-Audrey Hepburn fans can check the modern version with Harrison Ford and Greg Kinnear which is also great.
The story is simple: Sabrina is the young and naive "chauffeur's daughter" who is in love with David, the rich playboy way out of her league. She spends her days spying on him and nurturing feelings who will never be corresponded.
Haven't we've all been there? Maybe we like someone but they don't like us back. Or we are in a relationship but the other person decides to end it. How do we deal with that? Obsessing over the person and refusing to let go?
No, I say let's play it classy and learn from Audrey. Actually let's learn from her father. Sabrina's father wisely realizes that Sabrina's infatuation is harming her and that Sabrina and David living in the same house might be a problem.
He acknowledges the truth: Sabrina and David are not going to be a couple. It's hard analyzing our lives like this but we must. This is actually why the sitcoms I mentioned earlier are so popular, they are fantasies. Deep down we all wish the boy we love would come crawling back to us one day. If there isn't a real possibility of this happening, it's time to move on. And Sabrina does just that - literally. Her father sends her to Paris to study cooking.
I'm not suggesting you move to Paris, though if you have the means I definitely recommend it. What I'm saying is change airs. Go on vacation, get away for the weekend, explore your city, spend some time in a relative or friend's house.
Just don't sit around your house staring at a window. Don't stalk him (either physically or through Facebook), don't live in denial, don't jeopardize your ex's new relationships, don't enter new relationships just to make another person jealous.
But most importantly, even if you do move physically make sure that you move mentally. The movie is very realistic in the sense. Sabrina moves to Paris but her mind is still in David's house.
Now that you are in this exciting new place, be there. Sabrina makes new friends, meets new people, goes to different places, learns new things, finds new hobbies. When she arrived in Paris, Sabrina's whole world was David. When she started broadening her world, suddenly her mind didn't have space for David anymore.
If we are going to learn how to deal with breakups we cannot resort to modern pop culture. We need to do it the old school way. And by old school I mean Audrey Hepburn.
Audrey Hepburn fans have all seen the classic Sabrina. Non-Audrey Hepburn fans can check the modern version with Harrison Ford and Greg Kinnear which is also great.
The story is simple: Sabrina is the young and naive "chauffeur's daughter" who is in love with David, the rich playboy way out of her league. She spends her days spying on him and nurturing feelings who will never be corresponded.
Haven't we've all been there? Maybe we like someone but they don't like us back. Or we are in a relationship but the other person decides to end it. How do we deal with that? Obsessing over the person and refusing to let go?
No, I say let's play it classy and learn from Audrey. Actually let's learn from her father. Sabrina's father wisely realizes that Sabrina's infatuation is harming her and that Sabrina and David living in the same house might be a problem.
He acknowledges the truth: Sabrina and David are not going to be a couple. It's hard analyzing our lives like this but we must. This is actually why the sitcoms I mentioned earlier are so popular, they are fantasies. Deep down we all wish the boy we love would come crawling back to us one day. If there isn't a real possibility of this happening, it's time to move on. And Sabrina does just that - literally. Her father sends her to Paris to study cooking.
I'm not suggesting you move to Paris, though if you have the means I definitely recommend it. What I'm saying is change airs. Go on vacation, get away for the weekend, explore your city, spend some time in a relative or friend's house.
Just don't sit around your house staring at a window. Don't stalk him (either physically or through Facebook), don't live in denial, don't jeopardize your ex's new relationships, don't enter new relationships just to make another person jealous.
But most importantly, even if you do move physically make sure that you move mentally. The movie is very realistic in the sense. Sabrina moves to Paris but her mind is still in David's house.
Now that you are in this exciting new place, be there. Sabrina makes new friends, meets new people, goes to different places, learns new things, finds new hobbies. When she arrived in Paris, Sabrina's whole world was David. When she started broadening her world, suddenly her mind didn't have space for David anymore.
Sabrina is young and when we are young it's easy to let the person we love fill our whole lives. We put them in pedestals and forget about ourselves. That's not healthy and no one likes that.
If you allow me, let me throw in a piece of advice. When we suffer there needs to be learning. If we don't learn then it's just pain. I'm terrible at this, partly because I'm a spoiled brat but also because it's very hard. So, I just ask God to help me. I ask Him to help me see what He wants me to learn from this experience. While I'm at it I also ask God to heal my heart and to teach me how to love and forgive.
God wants us to love and to be loved. Let's trust God and, like Sabrina, do our part. (God will definitely do His).
Paula lives in Brazil and recently majored in English. She spends way too much time watching movies and blogging about them at The Culture Enthusiast.. Oh, and she really wishes she could be more like Audrey Hepburn (don't we all?).
If you allow me, let me throw in a piece of advice. When we suffer there needs to be learning. If we don't learn then it's just pain. I'm terrible at this, partly because I'm a spoiled brat but also because it's very hard. So, I just ask God to help me. I ask Him to help me see what He wants me to learn from this experience. While I'm at it I also ask God to heal my heart and to teach me how to love and forgive.
God wants us to love and to be loved. Let's trust God and, like Sabrina, do our part. (God will definitely do His).
Paula lives in Brazil and recently majored in English. She spends way too much time watching movies and blogging about them at The Culture Enthusiast.. Oh, and she really wishes she could be more like Audrey Hepburn (don't we all?).
I loved this post! Most girls think they can act like Rachel and everything is going to turn out all right. But that's not true at all. It's good to hear some truth once in a while.
ReplyDeleteGreat post. Love Audrey. :D
Your thoughtfully written blog post brought me to tears. Sometimes it's still hard to be whole again, even if you've done what Sabrina has. However, it's advice like yours that bring hope and put life back into perspective :) Trust in and praise God!
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